Comments for Jackie Joens http://jackiejoens.com Strengthening relationships one conversation at a time. Sat, 24 Mar 2012 02:25:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on Abuse as told by Survivor #8 by Cyclones http://jackiejoens.com/2012/03/23/abuse-as-told-by-survivor-8/comment-page-1/#comment-434 Cyclones Sat, 24 Mar 2012 02:25:31 +0000 http://jackiejoens.com/?p=644#comment-434 Thanks for sharing your story! Your story will give hope to others in difficult situations. Remember the abuse or problems will never define you...your identity is in Christ. Thanks for sharing your story! Your story will give hope to others in difficult situations. Remember the abuse or problems will never define you…your identity is in Christ.

]]> Comment on Abuse as told by Survivor #8 by Karen http://jackiejoens.com/2012/03/23/abuse-as-told-by-survivor-8/comment-page-1/#comment-433 Karen Sat, 24 Mar 2012 02:24:03 +0000 http://jackiejoens.com/?p=644#comment-433 What a powerful testimony. May God continue to give you strength on your journey. What a powerful testimony. May God continue to give you strength on your journey.

]]> Comment on The Gifts Of Beauty In Your Day by Elizabeth Krueger http://jackiejoens.com/2012/01/03/the-gifts-of-beauty-in-your-day/comment-page-1/#comment-429 Elizabeth Krueger Wed, 04 Jan 2012 00:51:51 +0000 http://jackiejoens.com/?p=625#comment-429 This is an absolutely amazing thing if you stick with it! It will completely change your perspective on things!!! For people that like to be even more creative than just to journal you can let your mind go with the possibilities...they are endless! This is an absolutely amazing thing if you stick with it! It will completely change your perspective on things!!! For people that like to be even more creative than just to journal you can let your mind go with the possibilities…they are endless!

]]> Comment on The Dance of Dating by Jackie Joens http://jackiejoens.com/2009/05/10/dating/comment-page-1/#comment-384 Jackie Joens Tue, 12 Apr 2011 11:18:04 +0000 http://jackiejoens.com/?p=21#comment-384 Lori, Your question is (unfortunately) not an uncommon one. It isn't an easy one to answer without conversation and exploration. Some questions for you (and he) to think about...Where is the fear coming from as you grow closer? Is the fear relating to your relationship or past relationship hurts? Is this a relationship that would be good to invest in some couple's counseling to work through these fears? Is there a fear of commitment and long-term relationship building? These are just a few questions that would be good to explore. I would strongly urge you to connect with a couples counselor to help give you an objective perspective as you work through this relationship issue. Good luck as you continue on this journey! Lori,
Your question is (unfortunately) not an uncommon one. It isn’t an easy one to answer without conversation and exploration. Some questions for you (and he) to think about…Where is the fear coming from as you grow closer? Is the fear relating to your relationship or past relationship hurts? Is this a relationship that would be good to invest in some couple’s counseling to work through these fears? Is there a fear of commitment and long-term relationship building?

These are just a few questions that would be good to explore. I would strongly urge you to connect with a couples counselor to help give you an objective perspective as you work through this relationship issue.

Good luck as you continue on this journey!

]]> Comment on The Dance of Dating by Lori http://jackiejoens.com/2009/05/10/dating/comment-page-1/#comment-383 Lori Sun, 10 Apr 2011 06:15:38 +0000 http://jackiejoens.com/?p=21#comment-383 What is the best advice for someone who really likes someone and is trying her best to be compassionate, caring and patient. But the closer we get the more distance and afraid it seems he becomes? What is the best advice for someone who really likes someone and is trying her best to be compassionate, caring and patient. But the closer we get the more distance and afraid it seems he becomes?

]]> Comment on Happiness Is Your Gift – Enjoy It! (Part 1) by Candy Paint %0B http://jackiejoens.com/2009/10/11/happiness-is-your-gift-enjoy-it-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-371 Candy Paint %0B Thu, 16 Dec 2010 06:38:15 +0000 http://jackiejoens.com/?p=292#comment-371 true happiness can be difficult to achieve, you can be rich but still not be truly happy :.' true happiness can be difficult to achieve, you can be rich but still not be truly happy :.’

]]> Comment on “…how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is.” by Karen http://jackiejoens.com/2010/10/07/how-wide-how-long-how-high-and-how-deep-his-love-is/comment-page-1/#comment-367 Karen Mon, 18 Oct 2010 05:44:09 +0000 http://jackiejoens.com/?p=434#comment-367 This is really amazing! I can't wait to learn more about this subject. Thanks, Jackie! This is really amazing! I can’t wait to learn more about this subject. Thanks, Jackie!

]]> Comment on PERFECTION VERSUS COMPASSION by Lori http://jackiejoens.com/2009/11/02/perfection-versus-compassion/comment-page-1/#comment-348 Lori Sun, 18 Apr 2010 20:40:36 +0000 http://jackiejoens.com/?p=315#comment-348 Great post!! I agree...I agree...God made us in his image and he loves us just the way we are. My thoughts are If we were all alike, the world would be boring and men and women would not have a choice. I have come to realize since my divorce 5 yrs ago that rejection is not always our fault...we all have different interests and desires and needs ...its all about choosing the right friend for you so that we can be happy and experience the love and understanding and Joy in the years to come. Great post!! I agree…I agree…God made us in his image and he loves us just the way we are. My thoughts are If we were all alike, the world would be boring and men and women would not have a choice. I have come to realize since my divorce 5 yrs ago that rejection is not always our fault…we all have different interests and desires and needs …its all about choosing the right friend for you so that we can be happy and experience the love and understanding and Joy in the years to come.

]]> Comment on Female – Male Brain Differences by Marna http://jackiejoens.com/2010/03/20/female-male-brain-differences/comment-page-1/#comment-346 Marna Sun, 21 Mar 2010 17:15:51 +0000 http://jackiejoens.com/?p=414#comment-346 I took a class years ago on Sex (gender) Differences in Communication. The professor touted that there are really few differences between male and female brains, but at the time she was young and very much a feminist. Over the years, I think she may have changed her mind on some of these issues. There were things we discussed about which I didn't necessarily agree with her, having myself already been married for several years with children of both genders. One of the major differences in genders that I remember from our discussions and which I have observed is that boys and girls approach disputes differently. If boys are playing on a team and a rubarb or argument ensues, the boys will usualy negotiate it out among themselves and continue playing. If girls are playing a game and a big argument ensues, there are apt to be hurt feelings and resentment, and the girls will often quit the game and go home and play by themselves. The females will take up a new game on another day. This does not mean that females are not able to negotiate or adjudicate, because they can, but it does point out that males are simply more wired to working together in teams. Could this be why for so much of history men have been judges and lawyers and why professional ball teams have been male dominated? When a spouse dies or a couple divorces, the husband left alone will often seek out a new companion within a time period which sometimes seems shockingly inappropriate. A wife will stay single much longer or for the rest of her life. Does that mean that men can't get along as well by themselves, or does it mean that males just have a greater need to have someone to share life with? I took a class years ago on Sex (gender) Differences in Communication. The professor touted that there are really few differences between male and female brains, but at the time she was young and very much a feminist. Over the years, I think she may have changed her mind on some of these issues. There were things we discussed about which I didn’t necessarily agree with her, having myself already been married for several years with children of both genders. One of the major differences in genders that I remember from our discussions and which I have observed is that boys and girls approach disputes differently. If boys are playing on a team and a rubarb or argument ensues, the boys will usualy negotiate it out among themselves and continue playing. If girls are playing a game and a big argument ensues, there are apt to be hurt feelings and resentment, and the girls will often quit the game and go home and play by themselves. The females will take up a new game on another day. This does not mean that females are not able to negotiate or adjudicate, because they can, but it does point out that males are simply more wired to working together in teams. Could this be why for so much of history men have been judges and lawyers and why professional ball teams have been male dominated? When a spouse dies or a couple divorces, the husband left alone will often seek out a new companion within a time period which sometimes seems shockingly inappropriate. A wife will stay single much longer or for the rest of her life. Does that mean that men can’t get along as well by themselves, or does it mean that males just have a greater need to have someone to share life with?

]]> Comment on Female – Male Brain Differences by Karen http://jackiejoens.com/2010/03/20/female-male-brain-differences/comment-page-1/#comment-344 Karen Sat, 20 Mar 2010 18:32:34 +0000 http://jackiejoens.com/?p=414#comment-344 I am probably one that has tried to "make" my partner be more like me. It doesn't work, though. :) I am glad that God has created us with such differences so that we can appreciate the world in all of its beauty! I am probably one that has tried to “make” my partner be more like me. It doesn’t work, though. :) I am glad that God has created us with such differences so that we can appreciate the world in all of its beauty!

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