http://jackiejoens.com/2009/05/03/to-know-and-be-known/ Strengthening relationships one conversation at a time. Sun, 18 Apr 2010 20:40:36 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 http://jackiejoens.com/2009/05/03/to-know-and-be-known/comment-page-1/#comment-5 Jackie Joens Thu, 07 May 2009 03:05:07 +0000 http://jackiejoens.com/?p=13#comment-5 This is a good question! The short answer is that we deeply desire the "love" of these people that we allow to "hurt us anyway." They are often times people in whom we have invested a lot of our love - so not feeling love from them may make us sense a deeper sense of vulnerability. The next piece of this puzzle is that our pattern of relating to these people becomes just that - a pattern - a habit. We need to mix things up and change those patterns of behavior, understanding how our feelings are connected to them. This would be a good discussion for future posts...good question! This is a good question! The short answer is that we deeply desire the “love” of these people that we allow to “hurt us anyway.” They are often times people in whom we have invested a lot of our love – so not feeling love from them may make us sense a deeper sense of vulnerability. The next piece of this puzzle is that our pattern of relating to these people becomes just that – a pattern – a habit. We need to mix things up and change those patterns of behavior, understanding how our feelings are connected to them. This would be a good discussion for future posts…good question!

]]> http://jackiejoens.com/2009/05/03/to-know-and-be-known/comment-page-1/#comment-4 Tessa Thu, 07 May 2009 02:35:48 +0000 http://jackiejoens.com/?p=13#comment-4 So why is it that we build up those walls with certain people but allow others to repeatedly infiltrate those walls and hurt us anyway? We may put up walls toward those of the opposite sex but allow those whom we consider "friends" to continue to trample all over our feelings. So why is it that we build up those walls with certain people but allow others to repeatedly infiltrate those walls and hurt us anyway? We may put up walls toward those of the opposite sex but allow those whom we consider “friends” to continue to trample all over our feelings.

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